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Lt. Colonel Lawrence "Larry" Edward McKay, Jr.

Lt. Colonel Lawrence "Larry" Edward McKay, Jr.
  • August 26, 1936 - August 8, 2013
  • Mount Pleasant, South Carolina

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“LTC McKay was one of the kindest men I have ever known. He often visited Charlie Company 3-3 Attack Recon Battalion when I was in command. It was an...Read More »
1 of 45 | Posted by: Major Cornelius L. Allen Jr. - KY

“As a young captain I served in the 101 Aviation Battalion at Ft. Campbell, KY under LTC McKay. My wife and I have fond memories of both LTC McKay...Read More »
2 of 45 | Posted by: Daniel Boccolucci, COL, US Army Retired - VA

“Dear Fay, I was so sorry to hear of Larry's death on my return home after a working trip in France for six weeks. Our thoughts and prayers are with...Read More »
3 of 45 | Posted by: Maggie and Pete Hoybach - SC

“Larry, We are sorry to have missed your funeral service and your richly deserved final earthly blessing, just as we will miss your quiet salutations...Read More »
4 of 45 | Posted by: Jim and Nancy Flatley - SC

“Eternal rest grant unto him, O Lord, and let perpetual light shine upon him. May the souls of the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest...Read More »
5 of 45 | Posted by: Ben Lee - MS

“Dear Mrs. McKay, I was so sorry to hear of Col. McKay's death. In 1963 I served under him at the 56th Artillery in Germany. He was a fine officer...Read More »
6 of 45 | Posted by: Eddie Chandler

“Dear Fay, I am so sorry to hear about Larry's passing. I have very fond memories of you both from when we were young and how much help Larry gave...Read More »
7 of 45 | Posted by: Carole McMahon - Mt. Pleasant, SC

“Sorry to this about your loss, Lanny. Our thoughts are went you. Russell ”
8 of 45 | Posted by: Russell Lynch - Arlington, TX

“I'm sorely saddened by Larry's demise. A part of Charleston and The Citadel will never be the same for me - Larry, although small in stature, is like...Read More »
9 of 45 | Posted by: Conrad A. "Bud" Holbert - SC

“My years at the East Cooper School 1980-1983 were three of the best years of my life. Col. McKay hired me to teach 6th grade social studies, Civics,...Read More »
10 of 45 | Posted by: William Smyth - Mt. Pleasant, SC

“Larry McKay treated me with kindness during a time at The Citadel when life was not pleasant for me. He has my gratitude for that. I later served...Read More »
11 of 45 | Posted by: Elwyn Lavelle Bembry - Nashville, TN

12 of 45 | Posted by: LTC DAVID G .SCHOFIELD - SC

“My wife Lala and I had the pleasure of becoming friends with Larry and Fay about 20 years ago. There are so many words to describe Larry McKay, but...Read More »
13 of 45 | Posted by: Joe and Lala Masino - Monroe, GA

“My wife, Jan and I first met Larry and Fay in 1964 when Larry and I were attending the Artillery Advanced Course at Fort Sill, Oklahoma. Jan and I...Read More »
14 of 45 | Posted by: Merle Mulvaney - Fairfax, VA

“If there one person that could represent the true Citadel Alumnus and The Citadel Class of 1958, it would be Larry E. McKay. He met his moral...Read More »
15 of 45 | Posted by: John P. Torell - Pooler, GA

“God bless Lt. Colonel Edwards who took the time to mentor Lt. Col. Michael Murphy, a Citadel graduate, good friend and a visionary. Where his life...Read More »
16 of 45 | Posted by: Gabriel Christian - MD

“There has been two people in my life that I have known briefly but who still have had a significant impact on my behavior. Mr. McKay was one of...Read More »
17 of 45 | Posted by: Randy Glenn - mt. pleasant, SC

“Col. McKay meant a lot to me growing up. His daughter Bitsy and I grew up together. I am grateful I got to see him and Fay at the reunion a few years...Read More »
18 of 45 | Posted by: Katharine Simmons Bryan - NC

“I am deeply sorry to hear about the passing of Lt. Colonel Lawrence Edward McKay, Jr. May you take comfort in knowing an angel is watching over you....Read More »
19 of 45 | Posted by: Erica Stanzione

“lary was a great Southern gentleman, a great friend, and we will all miss him. Our deepest sympathies to the whole family. Marie and I are out of...Read More »
20 of 45 | Posted by: C. O. Neely Thompson, III - SC

“Fay: Our prayers and thoughts go with you as you navigate this unknown path that eventually will lead you two to be together at Jesus' feet forever...Read More »
21 of 45 | Posted by: Bob Seigle - Pawleys Island, SC

“Dearest Fay, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this very difficult time. I too lost the love of my life on July 2nd so I...Read More »
22 of 45 | Posted by: Brenda Walker Reeves - Charleston, SC

“My condolences to you and the children, Fay. Larry always epitomized the Class of 1958 and was well-loved by all of us. When you talked with him,...Read More »
23 of 45 | Posted by: Ed Blight - Charlotte, NC

“Very sad to hear this news. Col. McKay had a tremendous impact on my life during my time at The Citadel. I couldn't have asked for a better professor...Read More »
24 of 45 | Posted by: Blake Wyatt - Charleston, SC

“Dear Fay and family. Sorry for your loss. I became a classmate of Larry in 7th. grade at Bishop England. I feel fortunate to have known him over...Read More »
25 of 45 | Posted by: Ronald E. Smith - Lake Worth, FL

“What a wonderful human being. I shall really miss Larry or "the Colonel". He cheered me up every time I saw him. He blessed us all with his...Read More »
26 of 45 | Posted by: John E. Spearman, Jr. - Lane, SC

“Lt. Colonel Larry McKay was instrumental in my life. I remember transferring from Wando High to East Cooper in September, 1979. With my dad's...Read More »
27 of 45 | Posted by: Mark McDonald - Amherst, MA

“Col. McCay had a positive impact in my life during my teenage years when I attended East Cooper School. I extend my deepest sympathies to the family...Read More »
28 of 45 | Posted by: Linda Lassig Corbisello

“Dear Faye, Oliver and I send our deepest sympathy to you and your family. We will always remember Larry as the fellow who got all of the class of ...Read More »
29 of 45 | Posted by: Oliver &I Rita Kollock

“The good Colonel was instrumental in cadets responding to the needs of people on the Gulf Coast after Katrina. He made phone calls and solved...Read More »
30 of 45 | Posted by: Karen Shuler - Colleague

“Dear Fay and family, I am so sorry for the loss of your dear husband and life partner. Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a...Read More »
31 of 45 | Posted by: Marsha Koczyla - Charleston, SC

“Col. McKay was indeed a godly man and humble servant, quick to encourage and listen. I will always remember his steady leadership, peaceful nature...Read More »
32 of 45 | Posted by: Carl Kastner - Lexington, SC

“I grew up next door to Larry's mother, Mrs. Beatrice McKay. The McKay family has always been wonderful people. When I think of all the memories I...Read More »
33 of 45 | Posted by: Lillian Holliman Smith - SC

“When we remember Col Larry McKay, we think of someone who loved his family, loved The Citadel and all of the students, and worked tirelessly for...Read More »
34 of 45 | Posted by: Gene and Wilma Styles

“What a wonderful man who always greeted me with a smile in the mornings at East Cooper. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. ”
35 of 45 | Posted by: Suzanne Donnelly

“A wonderful man, great friend and always a mentor and encourager. He was always ready and willing to serve his community on a personal, individual...Read More »
36 of 45 | Posted by: Craig Stephans - Elizabeth City, NC

“Col McKay was the embodiment of the ideal of The Citadel, a consummate gentleman whose genuine support, love and caring has helped to nurture...Read More »
37 of 45 | Posted by: Gus Olalere - Charleston, SC

“A great man who had a positive impact in my life during my teenage years. Prayers and blessings to the family during this time of loss. ”
38 of 45 | Posted by: Jon May - Batesville, IN - Friend

“Col. McKay was instrumental in my coming to The Citadel. And in doing so really shaped who I would become. He was truly a great man. My...Read More »
39 of 45 | Posted by: Mike Davidson - Boston, MA

“Larry stood out as a most sincerely interested and engaging friend. We will miss him terribly and send sympathy to Faye, his mother and the family. ”
40 of 45 | Posted by: Hank Miller - Mt. Pleasant, SC

“Lt. col. McKay was one of the kindest most considerate people I have ever known, always pleasant and cheerful. I had the pleasure of knowing him...Read More »
41 of 45 | Posted by: Mazhara Al-Turk - Amman

“I'm so sorry to hear of the passing of your father, Tricy. Wow, what an extraordinary American and what a wonderful man he was...I know you were...Read More »
42 of 45 | Posted by: Beth Watkins Collins - Moulton, TX

“I remember him well. Always said hello to everyone. Great person. He was HUGE reason I was able to travel with the Band & Pipes to Scotland in...Read More »
43 of 45 | Posted by: Joseph Williams - Conway, SC

“Lt. Col. McKay was a family friend. He was instrumental in my acceptance at The Citadel. His guidance, and friendship for over 20 years has been a...Read More »
44 of 45 | Posted by: Michael M Cochran - SC - Friend

“Sorry for lost Fay, Lanny, Tricy,Chappy , Bitsy! God bless u all! Jay game ”
45 of 45 | Posted by: Jay game - Charleston, SC

Charleston lost one of her truly fine gentlemen on Thursday, August 8, 2013, when Lawrence Edward McKay, Jr. went to be with his Heavenly Father. The relatives and friends of Lawrence McKay, Jr. are invited to attend his Mass of Christian Burial on Monday, August 12, 2013 in Christ Our King Catholic Church, 1149 Russell Drive at 10:00 am. Prayers of Final Commendation and Farewell will follow in Mount Pleasant Memorial Gardens with military honors. The family will receive friends on Sunday, August 11, 2013 in J. HENRY STUHR, INC., MOUNT PLEASANT CHAPEL from 6:00 until 8:00 pm. The rosary will be recited at 6:00 pm.

Larry was born in Charleston, South Carolina on August 26, 1936, son of Beatrice Stroman McKay and the late Lawrence Edward McKay, Sr. He grew up playing on the Moultrie playground, was one of Mr. Matty Matthews Golden Glove Champions and graduated from Bishop England High School. At the Citadel, he was elected President of the Class of 1958 and received the prestigious Willson Ring.

After graduating from The Citadel, McKay dedicated his efforts to proudly serving his county, country, community, and family as a citizen-soldier, the hallmark of every Citadel graduate. He earned a Masters Degree from Duke University en route to a teaching assignment in the Department of Social Sciences, USMA, West Point. He spent twenty years on active duty including tours in Vietnam as Aviation Officer 5th Special Forces Group (Airborne) and later as Commanding Officer, F. Battery, 79th Aerial Field Artillery, 3rd Brigade, lst Cavalry Division. His "Blue Max" Cobra attack helicopter unit was selected as the Army Aviation Association of America unit of the year for tank kills at the Battle of An Loc, Easter, 1972. At the Battle of An Loc, Larry McKay and his co-pilot, Barry McIntyre, became the first helicopter pilots in history to destroy an enemy tank. McKay's military decorations include the Silver Star, Distinguished Flying Cross, and the Bronze Star.

McKay returned home to Charleston in 1978 to become the Headmaster at East Cooper School. He served as a Vice President and Officer at the Seabrook Island Company and at Wild Dunes Associates. He was the founding President of the Wild Dunes Telecommunications Company, the first shared-tenant telephone company in South Carolina. He currently served on the Boards of three businesses, and is a founding partner in Horizon Capital Group, LLC.

General James Alexander Grimsley, Jr. selected McKay to be the Director of Student Activities at The Citadel where he taught as an Adjunct Professor in the Business Department. Back at The Citadel, his multiple duties included: producing The Citadel Sesquicentennial Tattoo, volunteer fundraiser for The Citadel Band, Pipes and Drums trip to participate in the Edinburgh Tattoo, faculty advisor for cadet trip to former Soviet Union Naval Academy at Sevastopol, Crimea during the transition of naval forces to Russia and Ukraine, and faculty advisor for a 2005 Business School cadet trip to Wall Street and corporate America.

McKay's community support includes service on the Trident United Way Board, Junior Achievement Board, Youth Services Charleston Board, Christ Our King Parish Council, Chairman of Golf Committees for the Kidney Foundation, Rice Planters, and The USGA Senior Amateur at Wild Dunes. He was the President of the East Cooper Meals on Wheels Board.

Colonel McKay is survived by his mother, Beatrice S. McKay; his wife of 54 years, Fay Chapman McKay; four children, Lanny McKay and his wife, Lisa Hodgdon, Tricy McKay Cushner and her husband, Michael, Chappy McKay and his wife, Sarah Ellis, and Bitsy McKay Moores and her husband, Duane; nine grandchildren, Rylee McKay, Aidan McKay, Cameron Cushner, Wade Cushner, Caroline Cushner, Ellis McKay, Maggie McKay, Trevor Moores and Clayton Moores. He was preceded in death by his father, Lawrence Edward McKay, and his brother, Fred McKay.

In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to The Charleston Catholic School, 888-A King Street,
Charleston, SC 29403 or